Our authentic self has always been and will always be within us, it’s not something we have to acquire or wait patiently to fall upon us; it’s already there. Your individuality is connected to your authenticity; knowing your thoughts and feelings and acting in accordance with them is being authentic or ‘being yourself’. It can also be described as being in your true element, without trying to be something other than what you are.
So the real work is about allowance and letting go. Allowing our authentic selves to be seen and heard by the world and letting go of our ego selves. That is, not trying to be something we’re not or needing to please others or act solely for our own benefit and gain at the expense of others.
Here are 3 simple steps you can follow to establish a better and healthier connection to your authentic self to live a happier and more meaningful life:-
- Take time to learn more about yourself, your likes, strengths, passions and what you love. We so often find ourselves disconnected from our true nature and personal expression and get caught up in our work roles or family responsibilities without ever checking in with ourselves, our needs or what makes us happy. Try writing down 3 things that make you happy and ask yourself what makes you feel like you’re in your element? Another good question to ask yourself is if you were to teach something what would it be? A great way to connect to what really matters to you. There are some great exercises in the Spirit of Happiness Creative Journal & Workbook that will help you connect to your authentic self and learn more about yourself to support this process.
- Make time to set goals that are in alignment with what really matters to you. These goals can be family related or work related but their central theme needs to place you at the centre doing something you really love. This will help give you direction and raise your levels of fulfillment and satisfaction. Make them achievable and revisit them as often as possible to stay on track. They don’t need to be big goals, they can be as small as arranging to meet a friend for a coffee and catch-up.
- Engage in activities that make you lose track of time. When we are in a ‘state of flow’ we naturally give our ‘feel good’ part of our brain a boost. Recent scientific research has concluded that these activities can actually improve happiness. So find your flow and set yourself up in an activity that allows you to do just that. Most creativity activities naturally lend themselves to achieving this. For example creative writing, painting, playing a musical instrument, cooking, gardening, sports or dance/movement classes can all help you achieve a ‘state of flow’. If you’d like to find out more about this or are interested in attending a course that supports and facilitates you in finding your flow, then please get in touch using the contact form. I run several in and around the Derby & Nottingham area.
This article is written by Sally-Anne Marler, a Creative Arts Facilitator & Coach who has been running courses & workshops now for over 3 years and has produced her own Spirit of Happiness Creative Journal & Workbook which is now being sold independently to the course to make the creative process she facilitates more accessible to more people who may not live locally. (Includes access to an online membership forum). Courses & workshops take place in the Derby & Nottingham area. For more information please get in touch by going to the Contact Page.